Grant Baldwin Click Here To Get 5 Free E-Books From Grant!

Monthly Archives: October 2009

Borrowing Money From A Family Member Is Stupid

Filed under Family, Money & Finances

When things get tough financially, the path of least resistance is to seek help from people you know love you: family.  But I’m here to warn you…this is a horrible idea. 

Although a family member may have the ability to help you out when you’re in a bind and may even want to help you out, you shouldn’t go that route.  When you borrow from a family member, you change the dynamic of that relationship.  No longer is it a parent-child or sibling-sibling relationship but now it becomes a borrower-lender relationship.  And I don’t know about you, but I don’t get together with my mortgage company to exchange Christmas presents!

When you borrow from a family member, you’re also less likely to stick to the terms of the loan.  If you couldn’t make a payment one month, you wouldn’t think anything of it because they’re family.  They’ll understand right?!  But you couldn’t pull that stunt with a bank.  You would have late fees and penalties to remind you not to do that again. 

If you’re really in a tough position financially and a family member wants to help out, the only way I would agree to it would be if it’s a gift.  No repayment necessary.  Now if you’re on the giving end and you want to help out a family member in need, make sure you’re actually helping them and not simply enabling their poor money decisions. 

But the bottom line is if you have to borrow money, don’t borrow it from a friend or family member.  You’ll ruin that relationship. 

Post a comment

The Importance Of Remembering Peoples’ Birthdays

Filed under Uncategorized

2 Comments

Gary Vaynerchuk VS Tim Ferriss

Filed under Books, Thinking Out Loud..., Time Management/Organization

I read a lot of books and two of my favorite business books are Crush It by Gary Vaynerchuk and The Four-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss.  While they both talk about business and being successful, they also talk about (to steal a phrase from Tim Ferriss): “Lifestyle Design.”  They talk about what you want your life to look like and shaping how you personally define success.  But the interesting thing to me is these are two completely opposite books. 

In The Four-Hour Work Week, Ferriss is advocating working less and enjoying life more (as the title might indicate).  He’s not promoting laziness but rather stating that life is too short to work and work and work and fall over and die one day. 

Crush It is just the opposite.  Gary states multiple times that in order to crush it, you better expect to outwork your competition and do whatever you need to do to make your goals happen.  For him, that means working 18 hour days everyday. 

(On a side note, ironically, although these are polar opposites of one another, Tim Ferriss has an endorsement quote on the cover of Gary’s book Crush It!)

As I read each of these I found myself drawn to thoughts from both.  I agree with Gary that success comes from hard work.  Period!  But I have no desire to work 18 hour days.  I also agree with Tim that I would rather enjoy my life than just work constantly, but if I just worked four hours (although again, that’s not necessarily what he’s teaching), I would be bored and go crazy. 

The point is that each one of us have to decide what success looks like for ourselves.  For you it may be working 18 hours a day and being the best in the world at what you do.  For you it may be traveling the world gathering experiences.  For you it may be quality time with your friends, family, or significant other.  For you it may be a big bank account or owning a fancy car.  Everyone is different, but you have to define what success looks like for you. 

For me…I love what I do.  I love being my own boss.  I love working hard and making things happen.  I love having freedom and flexibility.  And although you could argue that the more you work, the more you earn, I love my family more.  I love my wife.  I love my daughters.  I love my life.  So working 18 hours a day has zero appeal to me.  But working 4 hours a week also does nothing for me.  I have to find a healthy balance between doing what I love and am passionate about and also being committed to experiencing life with those I love most.     

2 Comments

Books I’ve Read Recently

Filed under Books

I enjoy reading and usually have a few books on the nightstand at any given time.  I thought I’d share a few of the ones I’ve finished recently…

  • Crush It (by Gary Vaynerchuk) – Gary is a social media wizard and is all over the place.  He built his name with a website called Wine Library TV but has expanded into other business arenas.  He can come across as abrasive and in-your-face, but he’s clearly doing something right.  The book was easy to read and had some practical, step-by-step tips for building your business online.  He’s big into people doing what they love, so I’m definitely in huge agreement there.
  • I Will Teach You To Be Rich (by Ramit Sethi) – I’ve been a reader of Ramit’s blog for a while and generally enjoy his work.  I don’t agree with all his ideas on personal finance, but he has definitely helped thousands of his readers (primarily 20-somethings) begin to pay attention to their money.  The book was well laid out and was very practical and applicable for both newbies and veterans of personal finance.
  • Consent to Kill AND Act of Treason (both by Vince Flynn) – I try to mix in some fiction to my reading to give my brain a rest.  A few years ago I came across Vince Flynn and became hooked.  If you’re a fan of the show 24, you’ll love his books.  They are in a series and are based around a character similar to a Jack Bauer (for all you 24 fans).  I’ve read all the books in his series except for two of them.  Great stuff.

Here are some others I’m currently wrapping up…

  • The Power of Less (by Leo Babauta) – I read Leo’s blog ZenHabits and enjoy his work.  I’m a big fan of working less (not to be lazy but to be more strategic) and enjoying life more.  I have the benefit of working for myself and working from home, so I’m able to spend a lot of time with my wife and daughters.  I’m about halfway through this and the advice is good but pretty basic so far.  I’m looking forward to the 2nd half of the book which seems to be a lot more of the application side of things.
  • Getting Real (by 37Signals) – I’m a fan of 37Signals and use their product HighRise for my business.  Although this book is written around the idea of building a web application, the thoughts apply to a lot of areas of business.  I’ve just got a few chapters left, but I’ve really enjoyed it.
  • Stone Cold (by David Baldacci) – This is another fiction change of scenery from the normal personal development/business books I usually read.  I’m only a few chapters in, but so far so good.

What are you reading?  What do you recommend?

Post a comment

More Knowledge Isn’t The Answer To Your Problems

Filed under Events, Speaking, Thinking Out Loud...

Yesterday, I attended a full-day motivational seminar that featured several big-name speakers.  It was a fascinating environment to me.  There was probably 10,000 people in the arena and the speakers did a good job creating a “go, fight, win” atmosphere for the audience (of course, a lot of it was “go, fight…buy my product and I’ll tell you how to win” but that’s a different post for a different day!). 

Attending conferences are great shots in the arm and can provide wonderful motivational boosts.  But I couldn’t get past a simple observation (not just with this event but even with the events I speak at)…

You can clap, cheer, and applaud the ideas presented and the person presenting them.  You can take pages of notes and memorize fancy quotes (wow, that rhymed).  You can get all the information and knowledge in the world BUT…

It doesn’t mean squat if you don’t do anything with it.

And truth be told most people in that arena won’t do anything different.  I’ll tell you a little known secret about motivational speakers that we don’t want you to know: we can’t change your life.  Speakers may be good at giving you the knowledge and the ideas, but only you can prevent forest fires.  Wait, that’s not right…

You’re the person who has to be responsible to implement the changes.  It’s never easy or pleasant, but it’s necessary. 

I want your opinion on this…why is it so darn difficult to make personal changes even when we know it will make our lives better?

3 Comments

Why Countless Options Leads To Indecision

Filed under Money & Finances, Thinking Out Loud...

I was reading this month’s issue of Money Magazine over the weekend and came across an article titled…

What To Do With $1,000 Now: Here Are 68 Of The Smartest Options.

SIXTY EIGHT OPTIONS?!  Are you kidding me?! 

Now I understand that they are in the business of just presenting people with the possibilities and allowing them to choose what’s best based on their individual circumstances.  But who in their right mind wants 68 options to choose from?  This was a great example of why most people end up doing nothing with their money except waste it.  If I’ve got 68 options to choose from, then I’m probably going to take the path of least resistance which is to spend it on something I don’t need. 

Who has the time to truly sit down and evaluate all 68 options to determine which one best suits their needs and situation?  So what can we learn from this? 

  • Don’t Allow Yourself Too Many Options – Limit the possibilities from the beginning.  Whether you’re selecting a college, where to go for vacation, or what to have for dinner, don’t allow yourself to have 68 options!  Keep it to just a few and you’ll be more likely to make a better decision. 
  • Don’t Over-Think Things – Once you’ve got your initial list of just a few options, there’s nothing wrong with taking the time to analyze your options.  Make a list of the pros and cons of each.  Compare apples to apples.  How is (A) better than (B)?  Keep in mind though that not all decision require this much thinking.  If I’m picking a vacation destination, I’ll definitely think through my options but if I’m deciding what to eat for lunch, you won’t find me making a pros and cons list! 
  • Make The Decision – Don’t put off the decision.  Once you’ve determined what the best course of action is…DO IT!  So often people are guilty of talking about doing something different but not actually doing it.  If you just talk about it but you don’t actually take action, you’re wasting your time. 

 

2 Comments

How I Handle My Business Income

Filed under Money & Finances, Speaking

When you’re self-employed, you have to learn how to handle your income in a slightly different way compared to a “normal” job.  In a “normal” job where you receive a consistent paycheck, everything is basically taken care of for you.  They subtract out your taxes, insurance, retirement, etc. and you get to keep what’s left over. 

But whether you’re 100% self-employed or you’re just doing some freelancing on the side and making a little extra cash, it’s important to know how to handle your income.  So I thought I’d share what works for me and how our system is set up.  Sound good?  Here are the steps I take…
1. Let Excel do the math – When I receive a check (books sales, speaking fee, etc), I first put the numbers into an Excel spreadsheet that tells me how I need to distribute that money.

2. Subtract out expenses – Are there any expenses directly tied to that check?  For me, it typically involves travel expenses that I’m being reimbursed for.  Other expenses may include printing, shipping, etc.  A lot of freelancers and small-business people skip this step and have no way to pay off their expenses.  Sometimes I may get a check and half of it actually needs to go to expenses.  It would be tempting to pocket that half, but I have to be diligent in reimbursing myself for expenses. 

3. Pay tithe (10%) – As a Christian, I pay a 10% tithe on all my income.  I choose to pay it on the gross amount (after direct expenses but before taxes).  Obviously, this step would depend on your belief system, but it is something that is important to me.

4. Pay taxes (25%) – Taxes can destroy a small business if you’re not careful.  I transfer 25% of the net check to a high-interest online savings account (I use HSBC Direct).  Then once a quarter I empty that account into my business checking account and pay my estimated quarterly taxes for the year.  I hate doing it, but if you don’t stay on top of this, your end-of-the-year taxes will eat your lunch.

5. Business account (15%) – Any small business or freelancer should be setting aside money out of each check to help fund the business.  You should have a separate business checking account from your personal accounts.  I use this account to pay my speaking coordinator, marketing expenses, design fees, shipping, etc…anything and everything related to the business. 

5a. Printing account – I self-publish my book “Reality Check” so whenever I sell books from my current inventory, I set a little of the profits aside to build up a reserve for the next printing.  My initial printing was 2,000 copies which costs several thousand dollars.  I know I will be printing more soon (actually in the next month or so), so it’s important to make sure the money is there for the next time around. 

6. Personal savings account (50%) – After everything else has been subtracted out, the remaining amount goes in our personal savings account.  So as you can see, I get to keep only HALF of the check amount!  We try to keep a month’s worth of “salary” (I’ll explain in the next point) within this account, so we’re always essentially a month ahead on our bills.  This helps us balance out the ebbs and flows of our income.  Sometimes this account is nearly empty (slow season) and sometimes it’s packed (busy time of year).  Any time this account has enough in it to cover one month’s salary, we take anything above that and put it in our emergency fund (another HSBC Direct account online that we keep 4 months worth of expenses in) or our Roth IRA.   

6a. Pay ourselves a salary – We create a monthly budget for our home and have set up a “salary” for ourselves.  So twice a month, we pay ourselves out of the savings account listed above.  Again, the point of this is that it helps balance out the highs and lows of our income.  It would be tempting to spend more money when you have it, but you have to prepare for those slow seasons when you’re not raking in the cash.

So that’s how we handle our income from the business…any questions?   

3 Comments

Lessons Learned From A Flat Tire

Filed under Events, Thinking Out Loud...

Yesterday morning I left the house and began a 2-hour drive to an event I was speaking at.  About 30 minutes into it, my car received the blessing of a flat tire.

Awesome.

Any speaker will tell you that one of their biggest fears is missing an engagement.  I’m no different.  So I pulled over and my first thought was…

“I hope I can change a tire.”

“PANIC…OMG…I’M NEVER GOING TO MAKE IT. WE’RE ALL GOING TO DIE!”

“This is going make a great story!” 

I changed the tire, got back on the road, drove about 10 miles and pulled into a little hole-in-the-wall tire shop.  They put two new tires on the front and I was back on the road in less than 10 minutes.  I got to the event location, set my bag down, and walked right on stage to begin.  It all worked out just fine. 

And as I was driving back, I was reminded of some simple lessons from the experience…

  • Control What You Can, But Don’t Panic About What You Can’t Control – Flat tires happen.  That’s life.  There was no sense in freaking out and falling apart.  I just got out of the car, changed the tire, and got going again. 
  • Your Attitude Will Make Or Break A Situation – Is the glass half-full or half-empty?  Everybody handles “crisis” differently but your attitude and perception of that situation can make things a lot better or a lot worse. 
  • An Emergency Fund Makes “Emergencies” Feel More Like Inconveniences – I talked recently about another car issue and how thankful I was to have our emergency fund.  When I had to spend $155 on tires, it wasn’t ideal, but it wasn’t a crisis.  Why?  Because we have an emergency fund for situations such as this.  It’s a lot less stressful when you’re prepared for the emergency before it happens. 

2 Comments

“Get Rich Quick” Is As Real As Unicorns

Filed under Money & Finances, Thinking Out Loud...

When I travel, I try to find little hole-in-the-wall local places to eat at.  Sometimes that is a very wise decision (for the food is pure decliciousness), and other times…not so much.

I had lunch in this little local restaurant in a small town in Kansas and found myself eavesdropping on the conversation between the waitress and two of her other tables.  They were discussing what the lottery was up to and what they were going to do with the money when they won.  I gathered they all already had tickets and were planning on buying more today before they announce the winner later on.

I thought about turning around and telling them, “You guys are dumb.”

But I decided not to for fear that grandma might beat me with her walker.  Of course they would argue what most lotto participants would say: “Somebody’s got to win…it may as well be me.”  Sure, that may be true (I decided against explaining to them that their odds are better to get struck by lightning twice and get swallowed by a whale…in Kansas), but what bothered me was their attitude towards the lotto.

To them, it was their ticket to freedom.  It was their one-way pass out of their current mediocrity and into a “better” life.  It was as if they were helpless in their situation and the only thing that could rescue them was winning the lottery.  Winning the lotto may be a shortcut to a “better” life for some, but here’s a news flash…

You’re Not Going To Win.  You’re Not Going To Get Rich Quick.  Regis And Howie Aren’t Offering You Suitcases Full Of Money.

But tell you what…instead of just breaking your heart with this fact, let me at least give you some hope.  You know how you can get rich and get out of your boring existence?

Hard work.  Set goals.  Think of what could be rather than what is.  Don’t give up.  Stop settling.

These aren’t just cliche motivational phrases.  When you realize that there are no shortcuts and you start to take ownership for your own life, things will start to improve.

Until then…keep buying lottery tickets.

Post a comment
  • About

    Grant Baldwin is a relevant leader and an engaging communicator who is making a significant impact in the lives of students across the country.

    Read more

  • Recent Posts

  • Categories

  • What I'm Doing...

    Posting tweet...

    Powered by Twitter Tools

  • Archives